Relational Rupture and Repetitive Intimacy Patterns

Attachment-Informed Therapy for Infidelity, Betrayal & Compulsive Relationship Cycles

When trust has been broken — by you or your partner — or when you keep repeating relationship patterns you swore you’d never repeat, therapy can help you slow down and understand what’s actually driving the behavior.

Infidelity, secrecy, emotional affairs, compulsive pursuit, intensity-seeking attachment, and love addiction patterns rarely begin where they explode. They emerge from attachment strategies, nervous system responses, and unmet relational needs.

The Practice works with individuals and couples navigating these complexities with steadiness, accountability, and depth.

  • If you’ve cheated, maintained secrecy, or found yourself in emotional or sexual entanglements you didn’t intend — you may be carrying shame, fear, defensiveness, or confusion.

    This work focuses on:

    • Understanding the attachment pattern beneath the behavior

    • Reducing shame without avoiding accountability

    • Identifying intensity-seeking or avoidance cycles

    • Clarifying what you actually want

    • Deciding how to move forward with integrity

    Therapy is not about excusing behavior. It’s about understanding it deeply enough to change it.

  • Discovering betrayal can destabilize your sense of safety, identity, and trust — in your partner and in yourself.

    In therapy we focus on:

    • Stabilizing your nervous system

    • Understanding the rupture without self-blame

    • Clarifying boundaries and needs

    • Exploring whether repair is possible — and what that would require

    This is steady, paced work. Not forced forgiveness. Not rushed decisions.

  • Maybe it isn’t a single betrayal.
    Maybe it’s a cycle.

    • Pursuing unavailable partners

    • Falling into intense but unstable connections

    • Feeling addicted to longing or fantasy

    • Alternating between obsession and avoidance

    • Confusing chemistry with safety

    Often labeled “love addiction,” these patterns are better understood as attachment strategies wired early and reinforced over time.

    We work to:

    • Identify the nervous system response driving the pattern

    • Untangle fantasy from attachment panic

    • Build tolerance for stable connection

    • Practice relational responses that feel unfamiliar but healthier

How This Work Is Different

Our approach is:

  • Attachment-focused

  • Body-aware

  • Non-moralizing

  • Direct and accountable

  • Affirming of queer and non-traditional relationship structures

We explore what happens in real time — not just the story, but the nervous system beneath it.

Individual or Couples Work?

Some clients begin individually.
Some come as a couple.
Some begin alone and later invite their partner in.

We decide together what format best supports stability and clarity.

Ready to Talk?

If you’re navigating infidelity, betrayal, compulsive intimacy patterns, or attachment-driven relational rupture, therapy can offer a steady place to begin.

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