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Attachment-Informed Therapy for Infidelity, Betrayal & Compulsive Relationship CyclesRelational Rupture & Repetitive Intimacy Patterns
When trust has been broken — by you or your partner — or when you keep repeating relationship patterns you swore you’d never repeat, therapy can help you slow down and understand what’s actually driving the behavior.
Infidelity, secrecy, emotional affairs, compulsive pursuit, intensity-seeking attachment, and love addiction patterns rarely begin where they explode. They emerge from attachment strategies, nervous system responses, and unmet relational needs.
I work with individuals and couples navigating these complexities with steadiness, accountability, and depth.
When You’ve Crossed a Line
When You’ve Been Betrayed
If you’ve cheated, maintained secrecy, or found yourself in emotional or sexual entanglements you didn’t intend — you may be carrying shame, fear, defensiveness, or confusion.
This work focuses on:
Understanding the attachment pattern beneath the behavior
Reducing shame without avoiding accountability
Identifying intensity-seeking or avoidance cycles
Clarifying what you actually want
Deciding how to move forward with integrity
Therapy is not about excusing behavior. It’s about understanding it deeply enough to change it.
Discovering betrayal can destabilize your sense of safety, identity, and trust — in your partner and in yourself.
In therapy we focus on:
Stabilizing your nervous system
Understanding the rupture without self-blame
Clarifying boundaries and needs
Exploring whether repair is possible — and what that would require
This is steady, paced work. Not forced forgiveness. Not rushed decisions.
When You Can’t Stop Repeating the Pattern
Maybe it isn’t a single betrayal.
Maybe it’s a cycle.
Pursuing unavailable partners
Falling into intense but unstable connections
Feeling addicted to longing or fantasy
Alternating between obsession and avoidance
Confusing chemistry with safety
Often labeled “love addiction,” these patterns are better understood as attachment strategies wired early and reinforced over time.
We work to:
Identify the nervous system response driving the pattern
Untangle fantasy from attachment panic
Build tolerance for stable connection
Practice relational responses that feel unfamiliar but healthier
*How This Work Is Different
My approach is:
Attachment-focused
Body-aware
Non-moralizing
Direct and accountable
Affirming of queer and non-traditional relationship structures
We explore what happens in real time — not just the story, but the nervous system beneath it.
*Individual or Couples Work?
Some clients begin individually.
Some come as a couple.
Some begin alone and later invite their partner in.
We decide together what format best supports stability and clarity.
*Ready to Talk?
If you’re navigating infidelity, betrayal, compulsive intimacy patterns, or attachment-driven relational rupture, therapy can offer a steady place to begin.